Parents of teenagers always fear the subject of sex with their children. Most parents do not feel comfortable to talk about it to their children, do not know how to start the topic and how much to tell and what to tell. Sex education conversation with teenage kids is really important.
Well, it is important for parents to realize that they should discuss this subject with their teenagers as they can give correct information and help the teenagers to have that special comfort with their parents so that they do not seek advice and information from wrong or ill-informed sources.
What is the right age for sex education?
Parents should begin discussing sexual behaviour, sexuality, and sexual feelings when puberty starts i.e. ages of 9 to 13. The discussion need not happen all in one go. It can be done in phases as you assess the emotional maturity of your children to comprehend the information given to them.
It is also important to understand that psychologically they are still too young and immature to cope with the unintended consequences that may occur with the sexual choices that they make.
High school and junior college, is the platform for the young to socialize, start dating and partying. This leads to an increase in sexual intimacy and activity. When they are living away from parents then the chances are even higher. At this age, they are not yet mature to take responsibility for the outcome of their actions e.g. accidental pregnancy.
Therefore, a discussion to educate and help decision making is important. The discussion should be two way. Parents should not only talk openly but also listen to their teenagers openly without being judgemental and decisive. They need to be comfortable to talk about not only sexual behaviour but also another high-risk behaviour in teenagers such as drug abuse.
Parents need to counsel teenagers to understand how to nurture a caring relationship and not indulge in casual sex. They need to help them understand that dating is not wrong if both partners are willing, should stop if one of them is not ready, and wait to get into sex until they are clearly committed in the relationship, and able to accept the responsibilities that come along with it. They should be made aware of contraception and all about sexually transmitted infections and its prevention.
In case you would like to discuss this important subject with your children, and you need assistance then you can seek help from Dr Sangeeta Agrawal.
You can get your teens to enrol for a discussion either singularly or in groups (teens are comfortable to come with their friends for a discussion on these personal matters). We will help get the discussion started and you can then take it ahead at home emphasizing your viewpoints beliefs and practices.
